Help with misbehaving children!?

Some people believe in time outs(whether that be 5mins. in a corner or pulling them out of the zoo and taking them home). Some people believe in loosing privileges(taking away tv, toys, etc...). Some people believe in a spanking(when I say spanking I do NOT mean beating your child. I mean a swat on the bottom when you are not angry). Some people believe in a combination of all of the above. Whatever works for you and your children - you have to be consistent. If they act up at the zoo, and you decide to take the tv away for 4 days stick to that, do not give it back after 2. If they get punished for the zoo incident and you go to the grocery store, and they act up. Whatever you did for punishment at the zoo, do it for the next incident. Right now, from your short ? I am assuming your kids listen to your wife more than you. They see your wife as the authority figure, and you as lets have fun and play. I don't think she should of yelled at you. Although my husband & I have a certain amount of equality in our marriage - even when we disagree, we do it behind closed doors out of the kids ears. We don't yell, we talk it out. The kids will pick up on that and think they can do whatever. You have to come together as a team, make the kids understand that both parents are in charge and whatever you choose for punishment, be consistent. On the flip side, it does help if lets say you took them to the zoo, grocery store or wherever they get rewarded for good behavior. This way they don't only see the negative, they see the positive side too. Both will sink in.